Stop Regina George: 3 Strategies for Silencing Your Inner Bully
A few weeks ago, I agreed to help a new friend with some music by accompanying them. I showed up for our time after a frustrating morning show and a frustrating rehearsal and I was already off my game. We started with an unfamiliar piece with changing key and time signatures, and I faltered. With every wrong note I played, I grew more timid and unsure, while my singer friend kept trying to push me along. Needless to say, my lack of confidence fed into further failure, and I didn't play anywhere near as well as I'm capable. I left our session even more downtrodden. "You're a fraud, David," I told myself. "You couldn't play that music! You’re terrible! You shouldn't even cash the check." Had the singer said the awful things to me that I was saying to myself, I would have burst into tears. "If we treated our friends the way we treat ourselves, we’d all be in jail.” -unknown Why do we put up with this bullying from ourselves? And what can we