A Wedding

In the season finale of Brothers and Sisters, which aired last Sunday, Kevin and Scotty got married. Nora, Kevin's mother, cut flowers from her garden and filled the living room with flowers, despite the fact that Kevin had specifically asked for no flowers. When he walked in on this scene, Nora said to him, "Damn it, Kevin, you deserve this night to be beautiful. Alright, yes, I got carried away. I don't regret it. Because tonight, Kevin, you don't get to be guarded, or cynical. You and Scotty deserve this night to be as...romantic...and memorable as anyone else's." I bawled like a baby during this episode. Watch for yourself:


Yesterday, the California Supreme Court ruled that gay and lesbian couples have the same right to wed as heterosexual couples in the state of California. In 30 days, couples will be lined up at the court house, committing their lives to each other and ensuring that their partners will have the right to inherit their property, visit them in the hospital, and share in the many other benefits of marriage. This all brought to mind a blog I posted in October of 2006, re-printed in its entirety here:

I sang at the wedding of my best friend from college today. It was an emotional experience. Last night at the rehearsal dinner, Louis' father got up to say a few words. His father toasted his bride-to-be, Stephanie, saying that one couldn't wish for a more beautiful, talented daughter-in-law. I want my father to love someone I love and welcome them into his family. Louis' dad then went on to tell how much he's learned from Louis and how proud Louis has made him. Who doesn't long for that?

Before their closest friends and family, Louis and Stephanie vowed to love and support each other for the rest of their lives. The friends and family then vowed to support them in this commitment. The minister discussed the importance of becoming one and living sacrificially, placing your spouse's needs above your own. I want to make a public commitment to the one I love that I will love and cherish them "'til death do us part."

At the reception, both fathers welcomed their new son or daughter-in-law into their families, and the two families danced and drank the night away together, reveling in their love for the newly committed couple while the couple reveled in their love for each other. I want my family to welcome my future partner with open arms, and I want to be welcomed into another's family with equal warmth.

Today's wedding was warm, heart-felt, and sincere. The service was simple and elegant. The music spoke of love that makes life worth living. The commitments were solemn and beautiful.

Ubi caritas et amor Deus ibi est. (Where there is charity and love, there God is.)

I want a wedding.

Comments

Anonymous said…
Wow... that clip really tugs at your heart. It certainly started the water works for me as well. I too, more than anything would love to be able to find someone to share that kind of love and devotion with. That was a really cute ceremony!
May 17, 2008 at 12:31 AM
Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Three Things Your (Gay) Christian Kid Needs to Hear from You

 Dear Friend Raising Your Child(ren) in the Christian Faith: A friend sent me an article today written by James Clementi, the older brother of Tyler Clementi. Tyler is the Rutgers student who committed suicide in September 2010 after his roommate used a webcam to spy on him. It moved me that poor James had to say things to his little brother that he would never get to say to him in person. I thought of a time in junior high when I thought I might commit suicide. I’d just started to grow uncomfortable with the feelings I was having for boys, I was unpopular and lonely at school, and I faced rejection when I asked girls to “go out” with me (really, where would we go anyway, the mall? “MOM, can you take me to the mall?” Well, yes, I guess that’s what the cool kids did do. Seems silly now.) I remember starting to pen suicide notes in Study Hall. I imagined leaving them unsigned and causing a stir, or I’d imagine actually killing myself at home, and I’d imagine how bad the kid...
Read more

6 Simple Fashion Rules for Men Over 30

Since yesterday was Father's Day, I thought I'd share a few of my thoughts on men's fashion. How we dress ourselves in the morning says so much about us, but many men are saying "I don't care." Men's fashion changes so little (really, when was the last time someone introduced a new neckline for men?) that if we make smart, simple decisions when we buy, our wardrobes can last a long, long time. With basic colors, most of the items in our wardrobes can also go with almost anything else, making it easy to get dressed in the morning, even in the dark! BUY THE RIGHT SIZE. Try it on. It doesn't have to cling, but it certainly shouldn't hang. If your pants won't stay on without a belt, they're not the right size. If they're loose in the waist but tight in the thigh? Not the right fit or not the right brand. Keep looking. Different brands fit differently, and some retailers offer 10 different fits! There's one that will look great ...
Read more